How the way we are taught to communicate can impact on our interaction with others ?
Over the past few years, parenting skills have seen rise to many new practices when it comes to adult-child relationships. Some of these are very convincing and worthy of special mention.
Parents nowadays want to provide their children with a fulfilling childhood. As a result they are always looking for new ways to do so: ways which can be seen as a compromise between the authoritarian methods of the sixties and the overly-liberal methods reminiscent of the seventies. Looking back, Françoise Dolto (a French pediatrician and psychoanalyst) highlighted how the actions of adults have a significant impact on how children think and behave. As time has gone on, consciousness has evolved even further, and now also considers the ways adults think and how this subsequently affects the way they interact with children. For example, with statements such as “You're too young......you can't go alone....you're a dreamer....just do what I say”.
Such statements can have a big impact on the way children view their capabilities and future potential. Not only does it have a big influence on how they communicate with other people, but also on their role in society and interactions in the workplace. Some can even give rise to interpersonal relationship problems.
“If adults didn't believe I could do it, then I don’t think that others can either”.
“If I did not feel respected as a person, how can I be expected to respect other people”?
“If I was constantly given orders, how am I meant to know how to give others freedom of choice”?
The approaches adopted nowadays, by more and more parents, certainly can be adapted for the working environment. This is especially true for employer-employee relationships. However, let us be clear. It does not mean psychoanalyzing employees or making them undergo workplace therapy sessions. Neither does it mean discussing the authority and role of managers. After all, just like the role of a parent is governed by particular rules, constraints and objectives, so is that of a manager.
The actual aim of these new approaches is much simpler: to help managers look differently at their teams and to support and encourage them. It is about finding kinder ways of communicating, based on the methods and practices employed in the world of education and society as a whole. If you consider things from this angle, then relationships with your employees can develop more positively. Furthermore, you can encourage those working for you to adopt a more responsible and motivated attitude.